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Faith Issues for Single Parents
 

Editor's Note:  The purpose of the website is to serve single parents in NC by providing resources and information.  Also we provide a common gathering point for single parents to interact with each other and other experts in relevant areas (such as legal and financial).  We serve single parents from ANY walk of life, with ANY religious views, and ANY race.  Agreeing with the information that follows IS NOT required to be a part of the NCSingleParent community.  We do reserve the right to editorial control without explanation.  Thanks for being a part of the NCSingleParent community!

Introduction by Montie Roland

When the kids have gone to bed and its quiet.  When your only companions seem to be bitterness and unpaid bills, its easy to wonder if anyone cares.  When it is so obvious that it wouldn't be as tough if your spouse hadn't walked out.  Why couldn't they have stayed true to their vows.  We used to be so in love.  Its during those times that we wonder is there a God?  Does he care?  How could he let this happen?  How could my spouse sit in church and not feel guilty?

Those are the times that we often reach out for something.  Maybe its that special someone or that activity.  The problem is that a person can never completely fills that void.  People let us down.  Things lose their luster.  Our kids let us down.  Maybe chatting on the internet will seem to fill a need for a little while.  Often being alone and in the dark on the internet leads to cybersex in some chat room or viewing on-line pornography.  These things only seem to temporarily satisfy and eventually leave an even bigger void than was there before.

There are needs that only God can fill.  When we try to fill them with other things it is often disastrous.  When we ask another person to fill those needs, it is a burden that other person wasn't designed to fill.  Often all we are left with is a broken relationship and more bitterness,  guilt and a harder, more calloused heart.  Addictions can destroy our lives and harm our children.

So who do we turn to when its quiet.  Is there a God who cares?  The following article tells us how to find peace with God.  My relationship with Jesus has been a source of joy and security.  Am I delusional to think that there is a God who cares?   Would he actually send his son to die on the cross to pay for my sins?

What I do know is that I rely on my relationship with God.  I know that my kids see a better Dad and difference in me when I'm closest to God.  I still mess up, make mistakes, and (to use the politically incorrect term) sin.  Hey if you look at it practically I'm a huge hypocrite.  I'm telling you that I go to church.  Telling you that you need a personal relationship with God.  There are a great many things I can't explain.  I can say that even if I turn out to be a fool for believing that Christ died for my sins, my life and my kids lives are better for it! 

I'm not telling you what to believe.  That is up to you.  I'm sharing what I believe, that is all.

The following article is about Steps to Peace with God.  Your comments are welcome.  Please don't hesitate to send me an e-mail at:  (Click Here to send e-mail)  Thanks for taking your time to let me share my feelings and beliefs with you.  Have a great day!

Montie Roland
Editor, NCSingleParent
March 2004



Steps to Peace with God
by Brad Harbaugh, Singles Pastor, Colonial Baptist

Step One -- God's Purpose: Peace and Life

Step 1
God loves you and wants you to experience peace and life--abundant and eternal.

The Bible says...

"We have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ." Romans 5:1

"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life." John 3:16

"I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly." John 10:10

Why don't most people have this peace and abundant life that God planned for us to have?
 

Step Two -- The Problem: Our Separation

Step 2
God created us in His own image to have an abundant life. He did not make us as robots to automatically love and obey Him. God gave us a will and a freedom of choice.

We chose to disobey God and go our own willful way. We still make this choice today. This results in separation from God.

The Bible says...

"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Romans 3:23

"For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 6:23

Our Attempts to Reach God

People have tried in many ways to bridge this gap between themselves and God...

The Bible says...

"There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death." Proverbs 14:12

"But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear." Isaiah 59:2

No bridge reaches God...except one.
 

Step Three -- God's Bridge: The Cross

Step 3
Jesus Christ died on the Cross and rose from the grave. He paid the penalty for our sin and bridged the gap between God and people.

The Bible says...

"For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Jesus Christ." 1 Timothy 2:5

"For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God." 1 Peter 3:18

"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8

Who is Jesus Christ?

God Himself has provided the only way. Each person must make a choice.

The Bible tells us Jesus was God who took upon Him the flesh and nature of a man. He was all God
and yet all man. He became like us to save us. He was conceived in a miraculous virgin conception so to be the sinless Savior that satisfied the just demands of a Holy God. Jesus Christ rose bodily from the dead and lives today seated at the right hand of God. Jesus Christ will return to judge and rule this world.

John 1:1,14 "In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God... The Word became flesh and made His dwelling among us."

Philippians 2:5-8 "Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the
very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death - even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue shall confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father."

I Corinthians 15:3 " Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures..."

2 Corinthians 5:20b,21 "We implore you on Christ's behalf: Be reconciled to God. God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God."

The point: God provided the way....

Step Four -- Our Response: Receive Christ

Step 4
We must trust Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior and receive Him by personal invitation.

The Bible says...

"Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me." Revelation 3:20

"Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God." John 1:12

"That if you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." Romans 10:9

Where are you?

Will you receive Jesus Christ right now?

Here is how you can receive Christ:

1.Admit your need (I am a sinner).
2.Be willing to turn from your sins (repent).
3.Believe that Jesus Christ died for you on the Cross and rose from the grave.
4.Through prayer, invite Jesus Christ to come in and control your life through the Holy Spirit. (Receive Him as Lord and Savior.)

How to Pray:

Dear Lord Jesus,

I know that I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness. I believe that You died for my sins. I want to turn from my sins. I now invite You to come into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as Lord and Savior.

In Jesus' name. Amen.

God's Assurance: His Word

If you prayed this prayer,

The Bible says...

"Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved." Romans 10:13

Did you sincerely ask Jesus Christ to come into your life? Where is He right now? What has He given you?

"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith--and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God--not by works, so that no one can boast." Ephesians 2:8,9

Receiving Christ, we are born into God's family through the supernatural work of the Holy Spirit who indwells every believer. This is called regeneration, or the "new birth."

This is just the beginning of a wonderful new life in Christ. To deepen this relationship you should:

1. Read your Bible everyday to know Christ better.
2. Talk to God in prayer every day.
3. Tell others about Christ.
4. Worship, fellowship, and serve with other Christians in a church where Christ is preached.
5. As Christ's representative in a needy world, demonstrate your new life by your love and concern for others.

If you have prayed to receive Christ, or would like to talk with someone about anything on this page, please contact Pastor Brad Harbaugh at bradharbaugh@colonial.org.
 

 

No Ultimate Loss by Shelby Roland, Age 13

 
It all began one day,
When the Sovereign Lord had to say:
"Let there be light."
Then there became day and night.
 
Then He created the sky,
How beautiful this must have been to the eye!
Next He created dwellings for his creatures-land and seas!
He planned it all out form huge whales to small bees.
 
Following this, He created the sun, moon, and stars;
He even created the planets and our red Mars.
The next day, He created those in the sea.
Each according to their kind that they might be free.
 
Even there our God did not quit,
Not until the seventh day did he rest or sit.
He created those that could fly,
He allowed them to soar up in our beautiful sky.
 
Then on the sixth day, he created every kind of beast,
But with irrationtal creatures he did not cease-
He aslo included a perfect man,
But later from good and into wickedness he ran.
 
However, the man called Adam needed a mate
So God created a woman (who later altered mankind's fate).
He said it was all good once He was done.
He had created a wonderful world under and wonderful sun.
 
Unfortunately, however sweet this may be,
And hopefully you soon shall see,
That this is not where the story wil end.
The problems that arose took long to mend.
 
God put Adam and Eve in a garden,
It was called the garden of Eden.
It was a most perfect and wonderful place,
And it was compromised of everything with its own space.
 
Adam and Eve were perfect and they walked with God.
They lived perfectly, so there was no need for a rod-
Or at at least until they disobeyed the Lord;
After that, God had to guard Eden with a sword.
 
God gave Adam one rule they must follow-
The fruit on one tree they must not swallow.
But Sated tempted unsuspecting Eve
And all of humanity was in trouble because she was deceived.
 
After she ate because of that cruel snake,
She gave some to Adam, it put all of humanity at stake!
Then God had to kick them out of that holy place.
And on our dirty earth, where they had to continue a sinful race.
 
Their offspring in number became great.
But they had fallen into an excessively corrupt state,
Every person was completely evil and twisted-
The number of righteous on earth could be easily listed!
 
But Noah was a man upright in heart
And he was chosen to play an important part.
He would save his family and some animals from a flood,
But all the other evil persons would drown in water and mud.
 
So God told Noah to build a big boat.
And put 2 of every animal on it-from ants to goats.
The big boat was then called an ark.
On our history, it has left a huge mark.
 
He told Noah to gather seven of each clean land animal kind,
But for this arduous task, God put it in those animal's minds,
To come, because rain was coming, so that they shall be saved,
However, the people didn't come, so a terrible end they paved.
 
Noah was on the ark for 150 days and nights,
Imagine that, all he saw were the same boring sights.
Since they were on the boat that long-
When they got off, Noah worshiped God with his own type of song.
 
After it all dried up there was no one alive,
Except for those on the boat and those that did dive.
God made a promise by putting a rainbow up in the sky-
He said that by flood never again would the whole earth die.
 
The world once again with life did it restore;
With bugs that bite, birds that sing and lions that roar.
However, the people still sinned once again,
But because of laws it was not as wicked as it had once been.
 
Even though the people sinned no where near as before,
Because of their sin, to heaven they still needed a door.
But God planned a way for us to be saved,
Jesus became that perfect door, and our way to heaven he paved.
 
Jesus was God's son who came and lived on earth,
And he came by the way of a virgin birth.
He was born in the little town of Bethlehem,
As for his family tree, King David was his stem.
 
He grew in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man,
And we should try to represent our Savior as best we can.
Its hard though, because he lived a completely perfect life,
And He died for us, He died for me and you with horrible strife.
 
While he lived on earth, he healed the lame and the blind,
And with His wonderful love He transformed and transforms many person's minds.
He did many amazing things we couldn't imagine.
He was tempted like we are today, but never once did he sin.
 
He could quote the Old testament Bible very well,
And likewise on our Bibles we should dwell.
Jesus made a way for us to have God as our friend,
And we can understand that He is with us to the very end.
 
Jesus walked on the water, fed five thousand men,
Plus he fed to the fill many women and children..
He did this all with five loaves and two fish,
He fed about ten thousand with one little boy's dish.
 
During his ministry, Jesus taught us very much,
Of His divinely inspired teachings were such-
Love your enemy, pray for those who persecute you,
Love God with your all, and to all others good you shall do.
 
He also told us that we needed to be born again,
Born by the Holy Spirit of God, not by our women.
We can not conform to the pattern of those around us,
And to be a living sacrifice for God we must.
 
We must follow the pattern set by Jesus our Savior.
His love for us was so strong he made himself a door,
For us to get to heaven and live with God, he died in great pain,
And now we should allow the Holy Spirit in our lives to reign..
 
Right before he died he was betrayed by Judas his friend.
His life came to a very treacherous and terrible end.
They whipped him and mocked him and put a crown of thorns on his head,
But up on the cross, He asked God to forgive them by what he said.
 
You see, God sent His only Son, Jesus Christ, to die for you and for me,
So that from now on, when we Christians die, God we will see!
But this tale of love and sacrifice will not end just quite yet,
And this story, even after the end of our world, will never set.
 
You see, after three days in the tomb Jesus rose from the grave!
So those who wanted it can be from eternal damnation saved.
Now Jesus's death and ressurrection is completed in me and you,
Because when you ask him into your heart, you life in Christ becomes new! 
 
Tell everyone that Jesus Christ died and rose from the grave,
And to everyone who believes and confesses life Jesus gave 
When He died that most painful death on the cross,
So that those who believe may suffer no ultimate loss